Sadness addiction (Revisited)
In sadness addiction, I wrote:-
“You can’t control your problems but can control the amount of your attention towards them.”
Just removal of sadness doesn’t ensure the happiness. You can never be happy If you associate your happiness with:-
- Your achievements
- Other’s actions
- Expectations of self or others
- Negative happening (loss/harm of others)
- Out of reach luxuries
If you get what you want or someone fulfilled your expectations, you can be happy for a while but not forever.
You can be happy forever if you:-
- Make yourself and others free from expectations
- Remove conditions for being happy
- Choose forgiveness instead of anger and revenge.
- Give equal importance to the world exists inside you ( Mind, heart,soul and physical body) like this outer world.
- Don’t try to control everything/everyone around you.
- Have learned the tactics of let the things go and move on.
Never depend on the others or few objects for your happiness. Do everything what makes you happy.
Never hesitate to say ‘no’. The people who really care for you would never mind, but If they do that means your happiness & decision doesn’t matter for them.
Never feel bad if someone criticize or hurt you. This is a part of life.
Whenever you feel extreme grief or depression, suppose you are a free soul wandering around freely.
Just as a soul, what you need to be happy?
………… Only peace & peace.
“What people will say….”
“Do it because others are doing”
“Don’t do this, this will spoil our reputation”
We all have been hearing such phrases since childhood. This is the society that stands behind us or we stand behind it. That’s doesn’t matter, but surely it matters for us.
This is not easy to live against the society’s wish. But I know many people who did and later that society appreciated them for their act.
This is just a perception “what people will think” but in actual people don’t have time for it unless you tell them your plans.
“Society’s wish is not obligation but self-realization is must.”
If you have fear of society in doing something, then remember even if you don’t do anything, they surely will blame you to do nothing.
Hence, If you think you are right at your, then don’t care about the society. Don’t lose a chance to make your life better because of them.
If you are feeling disturbed by people around you, raise your living standard instead of self change.
Have you ever thought:-
- Why some people have positive and some have negative thoughts for you?
- Why you are too close to your friends?
- Why you hate strongly, the person you don’t know much about?
- Why you feel attraction for a stranger?
Every person have different attributes both good and bad types. Some people notice your good qualities while others bad, so they keep different opinions for you.
Our friends are our best mate because we all have somewhat same characteristics.
You hate or feel disturbed by a person, perhaps he/she has traits different from you.
You feel attracted towards a stranger apart from personality and look, It can be their inner power or energy, positive or negative, complementary for you.
Sometimes, we complain that people have been changed or goodness has been lost among us; but this is not true at all.
Whenever, you feel broken or disappointed you attract negativity. Hence, you encounter with more negative people and situations.
We have everything within us. This is your outlook that decides what will you get.
‘Think positive, be positive.’
This is the bestest solution for all problems. So, Be positive and attract god towards you.